This morning I have the privilege to share a Father’s perspective on connecting with the heart of your teen daughter.
I don’t consider myself an expert on this subject. Sometimes I even wonder why God chose to entrust 4 daughters to me.
Often I consider myself much more adept at playing sports with the guys than caring for the delicate heart of a teen daughter. However, God had enough faith in me to give me these precious daughters….and because of that, I can trust that He will give me the strength and ability to care for them. Hopefully, some of what I share will encourage you.One of the freeing things that God had to teach me in being a father to my daughters was that it was ok to be myself.
That it was ok to connect with my daughters through building stuff, working in the garden and playing sports. Each of my daughters connects with these things in different ways, but all of them just enjoy spending time with me.
Therefore it doesn’t matter to them so much what we are doing. I just matters that we are together. So rather than just assuming that my girls wouldn’t want to be involved in what I like….I found out where they could connect.
I also work hard to connect to what they enjoy… whether it is horses or crafting. My daughters always appreciate when I participate in what they enjoy. The key…is that I am spending time with them.
As Fathers, we are often gone a lot due to work and other responsibilities…and I am no different in that regard. Being bivocational, I work full time at a 40-50 hour week job…plus pastoring Therefore, I find that it is critical that we take advantage of all the opportunities that we have to spend time with our daughters.
Finally, along with spending time with our daughters, it is also important that we spend valuable time with our daughters. The best way I have found to accomplish this is by spending one-on-one time with my daughters individually. I take them with me on errands and I take them on dates. I ask them about their passions, hopes and dreams…. And we talk about anything they want to talk about.
My encouragement to you is this….Don’t let trying to be a father to daughter intimidate you. God chose you for a reason and he will help you be a great Father who connects with his daughters at a heart level.
So the challenge today is to take time and ask God how you can connect with your teen daughter..as a father to his daughter, what is the best way to her heart? Then listen and look for opportunities to connect and spend valuable time with her….because it matters now and for her future.
-BrianI would love to hear from you. Feel free to leave a comment here on the blog, on the Fearless Heart Facebook Page or send your thoughts to my e-mail at email@example.com ~Victoria
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