If you have dived into my story then you also know that when I say the word “Fearless” it doesn’t mean that I expect to get to a point of never having fear invade my heart or life ever again.
The truth is that fear will always be a reality in this world…and it will often try to invade our hearts and minds, even in the most subtle of ways. It’s one of the enemies greatest weapons against us…because he is fully aware that if he can keep us in bondage to fear then we cease being effective as followers of Christ.
For me...being “Fearless” simply means being able to move in the freedom Christ has given me DESPITE fear.
Today I want to talk about “Tackling Fear” and “Letting Go” when it comes to winning the hearts of our daughters.
Yesterday we were talking about learning to ask our daughters about their hopes, wishes and dreams..not just what they wanted to be when they grew up but what they were thinking and feeling and sensing from God right now…in the day to day.
And if we are honest, most of us (included me) are ok with our daughters “little dreams” and “semi-medium” wishes. But what happens when your daughter comes to you with a really “big” dream…like “I want to travel outside the country to help orphans and poor people for Christ” type of dreams.
All of a sudden we start kicking ourselves for even bringing dreaming up in the first place. We start to hyperventilate thinking of everything that could go wrong and probably will. We stand in front of the mirror and realize we are getting to the age where maybe…just maybe…our daughter doesn’t need us quite as much.
And it scares us to death!
Who will be there to remind her to take her medicine, to look both ways before crossing the street, to not take candy from strangers and to remind her to put sunscreen on that sensitive part of her nose?
As I type this….this particular scenario is no scenario…it’s my life.
Our oldest daughter will soon depart for a short term missions trip out of the country and while I am excited for her…my momma heart and brain kicks in wondering if I have completely lost all my senses.
Everything in me wants to gather her near, to never let her go. Last year when she went on a missions trip at least she was stateside….and that was hard enough.
So what do we do when your daughters dreams start getting bigger? More and more God-sized, as Holley Gerth would put it. What do we do with that?
Our tendency is to hold on…tight! Sometimes so tight that we can land up stifling the very life and creativity out of our daughter. And in their aching to be free and our aching to keep them in the nest…we can create a battle that was never meant to be fought. A battle that shuts down her heart.
That doesn’t mean we give into every dream and hope and wish. Our oldest was sensing a call to this particular country months before Brian and I had a peace about it. And as much as she struggled to wait she knew that until Mom and Dad had prayed, sought counsel and had a peace that she wasn’t getting very far off the ground.
Maybe your daughter is not dreaming of going to another country...but maybe she is dreaming of something that is more God-sized than human-sized.
So can I ask you? What has your response been? Are you battling when you should be praying? Is her heart shutting down instead of opening?
People often ask me how I can let our daughter go…”Doesn’t it scare you?” And I’m honest with them when I answer…
“Yes…absolutely, but how can I let my own fear stand in the way of God’s call on my daughters life? Do I trust Him so little with her that I am willing to block His purpose and destiny for her just so I can feel better?”
That is how I let her go...knowing that the One who created her…who loves her infinitely more than I could even hope too…will travel with her even while I remain at home.
May I challenge you as I continually challenge myself? That as God calls your daughter…my daughter…for His purposes…that we let go instead of holding on. That we pray instead of battle. That we tackle our fear so she learns how to tackle hers.
It’s about learning to “Let Go and Let God”….Because ultimately it’s about Him capturing Her Heart…because honestly…. that is the safest place she can ever be!
Psalm 139:4-5 “Before a word is on my tongue you, Lord, know it completely. You hem me in behind and before, and you lay your hand upon me.”
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