Well, we are onto Day 4 of learning what it means to capture the heart of your daughter. Over the last three days we have talked about checking our own hearts, spending Quantity and Quality time with our daughters. We also talked about creating a safe environment for our daughters to experience their teenage years…despite all the up’s, downs and attitudes that can come with growing older. But not only creating a safe place but also challenging our daughter that her attitude matters and that she doesn’t have to be controlled by it.
Today I want to talk about something really simple and yet so deeply important when it comes to capturing our daughter’s heart.
I was in Queens New York a few weeks ago, attending a Leadership Conference at New Life Fellowship Church, when God used something Pete Scazzero said to really bring my attention to an area I had been neglecting in my girls life.
In essence Pete asked us how often we talk to each other about our dreams, our hopes and our wishes. And immediately the thought came to me…”When was the last time I asked my girls what their hopes and dreams are?”
And I had to think..”What are their hopes and dreams?” What are their hopes and dreams for this year? For next month, for this week?
And I realized…I didn’t know!
And it was an ahh-haa kind of moment for me. Because when I talk about hopes and dreams in this context I don’t mean “what does she want to be when she grows up.”
Because I have come to realize that for our young lady’s there are a lot of hopes, dreams and wishes in-between now and “growing up.”
Do you know what your daughter’s hopes, dreams and wishes are for this coming week, next month…next year? What do you think her reaction would be if you asked her that very thing?
When I asked my girls that question for the first time they automatically responded by telling me what they wanted to be when they grew up. I had to stop them and be really clear…”No, I want to know what your hopes, or dreams or wishes are for this week!” And for a brief moment they looked a bit puzzled and then they had to think a little bit before they could answer.
And you know what I found out? One was hoping to pass her next test…the other was praying and hoping for enough money so she could go on her missions trip…another had a wish for a friend to come to church.
And it did something to our relationship…just ever so slightly…ever so profound. It was if there was this realization in them that their hopes and dreams did matter..even down to the simplest and little bit of things.
And it did something else too...it told me a whole lot about who they are becoming as young ladies. It told me that one was worried about a test and that she needed me to press in and pray for her. It told me that one was trusting God for something she could not do…and as her faith was stretched so was mine. It told me that my daughter had a friends heart for another…and I was able to encourage her to keep praying and pressing in for her friend.
It’s a little thing really…this asking another about their hopes and dreams. It doesn’t take much time…but I believe it has the ability to make a lifelong impact on our daughter’s heart.
Because what it says…what it shouts to her heart...is that she has value, she has worth and the things that matter to her…matter to you.
So I challenge you this week to find an opportunity to ask your daughter about her hopes and dreams. And not just what she wants to be when she grows up…but about the time between the “Now and Growing Up”.
Jeremiah 29:11 -“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”I would love to hear from you. Feel free to leave a comment here on the blog, on the Fearless Heart Facebook Page or send your thoughts to my e-mail at email@example.com
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