Let me just say what an awesome privilege it is to be the mom of pre-teen girls! No…really! I can’t tell you how many times, when someone hears I have four girls heading straight for teenhood, that I get looks of pity and the “sigh” that says “You poor thing! I will pray for you! In so many words what they imply is that the teen years are to be feared and merely survived. But I say…No way!
The teen years are to be embraced. What an awesome privilege we have to shape and mold the hearts of the next generation. Hard work? Yes. A great deal of patience needed? Yes. Worth it! Absolutely!
By no means do I have all the answers or have it all together when it comes to parenting or teens. My only qualification may be the fact that I happen to have four daughters of my own who are rapidly approaching the teen years. My girls are currently 10,12,12 & 14.
Their poor daddy is completely outnumbered but he handles a house full of girls with much grace. (And a few well timed visits for barbeque and baseball with his buddies)
As we embark on this challenge I will be very honest that there is just not enough space for all that needs to be said when it comes to raising teen girls or capturing their hearts.
My heart is to share the things that God is showing us on this journey as well as the practical ways we have found to walk out these lessons at home. Because, honestly…we could speak until we are “blue in the face” but make no forward progress. What it ultimately takes is real and intentional action on our part.
So with that said…let’s dive right in.
The first key thing we have learned about capturing our daughters heart….is that we must come to know my our own heart first. That’s right…this journey does not start with her…it starts with YOU! Now granted, figuring out our hearts may seem a bit daunting…and indeed it can be, but God’s word says in Luke 6:45 “A good man brings good things out of the good stored up in his heart, and an evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up in his heart. For the mouth speaks what the heart is full of.”
If you want to understand the heart of your teen and how to truly capture it, ask God to reveal your own heart first. Because, the way we reach our teen is through the words and actions we speak each day making it vitally important that we are checking what is coming out of our own mouths.
By searching our own hearts, we allow God to weed out anything that would impeded the growth of our own daughter’s heart. Because, how can we pour into them when we ourselves need some pouring into first?
What I find is that as I deal with those things in my own heart, God can use it to give me greater understanding, love and patience for my daughter’s heart…because I realize they too have those same heart issues….hurts, wounds, hopes and dreams…the need to feel valued and of worth…and the desire to be loved and accepted.
With insight comes understanding….So may we first seek God’s insight to understand our heart so that in turn we will have insight and understanding into her heart.
So to that end….I ask this question ~ What is in your Heart?
I challenge you to ask God to reveal the things in your heart. Then take time to journal and write what He is showing you. Once you have that done that then take time to pray through what he has shown you and ask Him what you are to do with those things he has revealed.
I realize that searching out our own heart is a lifelong process…but as we are faithful to seek out God, I know He will be faithful to meet us.
Psalm 139: 1-2 : “O LORD, you have examined my heart and know everything about me. You know when I sit down or stand up. You know my thoughts even when I’m far away.”
~Watch Here for Victoria’s Re-cap & takeaways from Day 1~
I would love to hear from you! Leave a comment below, over at the Fearless Heart Facebook page or drop me a note to my e-mail @ firstname.lastname@example.org ~Victoria
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