A day we celebrate motherhood in all it’s wonder and strength. Taking time to honor those women in our lives that have made an impact upon us…shaping and molding us into who we are today.
I have to say that I am blessed to have a wonderful Mom. She isn’t perfect…which is good, since neither am I. We have fun together and laugh together….we always seem to shop in the rain together and have a habit of getting lost together too. We are perfectly paired…a mother and her daughter.
I’m a mom too….blessed with four daughters. Daughters who keep me on my toes, teach me so much about love and grace and help me laugh at myself. They remind me what it’s like to be young, and how to have faith as a child. They challenge me to be better….and yet love me for who I am.
Today I had the opportunity to bring the message at our small country church. On my heart where three gifts to share….three gifts that in order to give away we must first embrace for ourselves.The Gift of “Receiving”…
Day in and day out we give and give and give. We bless and work for those around us, pushing tirelessly into the night. We teach our children to share, to serve and to give.
And this is good….but the challenge I lay before you is this….
Do we teach them what it means to “receive” as well as we give. As mom’s we can struggle to receive from other’s. If someone offers a flower we say “Thank-you but…you really shouldn’t have.” And we turn what is to be a blessing back to the giver. Stripping the giver of their blessing in giving.
And our kids watch and take it in. Learning how to give but not to receive.
Let us be mother’s who learn to receive with grace as well as we work to give grace. As we do, then we teach our children that in giving we can receive...especially from our Heavenly Father.
That who we are is more important than what we do….
That the gifts our Father gives us are gifts to be received based on that truth alone…..The Gift of Dreaming…..
We tell our kids to pursue their dreams, to dive into the calling God has for them…to push forward into their destiny…
And yet often as Mom’s we put our dreams on a shelf, believing our dreams…big and small…that God has put inside of us, are meant to die or at the least, silenced until our kids are grown and gone.
That somehow there is not room for both on the shelf of my life….
And yes….dreams may be deferred for a time as seasons of life change and shift… but it does not mean that our God given dreams and purpose must die.
Step by step…process by process.
If a young boy wants to be a NBA player should he just sit on the sidelines and never practice? Thinking that as soon as he is tall enough and old enough that he would qualify for such a dream? No, he works at it bit by bit…. practicing game by game. The dream may not be realized for years but he works at it each day so that when the time is right…he is ready to step deep into his dream.
As Mom’s may we give our children the gift of dreaming…by working out the everyday parts of our dream so that we might model for our children the steps to take in their dreams….The Gift of Rest…..
As Mom’s we can get so busy caring for our families that we can fail to rest and care for ourselves…to nurture our souls and hearts.
When we rest we give a gift to our children in two ways….
1. Resting makes us a better mom…..(And much of the time, a less grumpy mom too!)
2. When we model rest for our children they learn the importance of rhythm….a rhythm of work and rest.
But as Mom’s we often feel guilty for taking time for ourselves, to take quiet moments, to stop and truly rest. But God himself calls us to rest. To come away and find rest for our very heart and soul.
Psalm 46:10 says “Be Still and Know that I am God.”
Resting restores us, revives us and strengthens us. When I purposely rest, sometimes by reading a book or puttering around the garden, I find that my energy and strengthen are restored. It gives me energy to do more with less time.
Matthew 11:28-30 “Come to me, all who are weary and heavy-laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from Me for I am gentle and humble in heart; and you shall find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my load is light.”
Are we giving the gift of “rest” to our children? Or are we teaching them to live just as hurried and worn out of a life as we are?
It is important…these “gifts” we pass onto our children….but in order to pass them on we must first walk them out ourselves. We must be willing to “receive” as well as we give, we must allow ourselves to “dream”, not only for our children, but for ourselves too….and we must willing to exercise the gift of “rest” and pass on a healthy rhythm of life.
As we give ourselves permission to enjoy these “gifts” we in turn give our our children the permission and ability to receive them as well.
I pray that today you can Receive……Dream…..& Rest…..but not just today but for all your tomorrow’s too!
Happy Mother’s Day!