How do we handle our children’s fears? How do we help them move from a place of fear to a place of peace in their own hearts.
Many times as parents I think we are too quick to dismiss our kids fears…especially if they seem small or irrational. Maybe I’m just a bit more sensitive to it because of my own journey of fear.
So what do you do when your little one trips down the steps and rushes into your room insisting that there is something under their bed or in their closet? Do you dismiss them? Do you shrug it off and demand “No, there is not! There is no such thing as a boggy man!”
We then send our kids back to bed and tell them to “just get over it.”
Or maybe, they come to us because they hear a noise or maybe see something in their small world that frightens them? To us the things that frighten them may seem small but to them…in their small world…the small things are really big things.
Are we a place that they feel safe coming to share their fears…no matter how small?
May I propose that when our kids feel safe coming to us with their “small” fears….that they will then be that more inclined to come to us when they have a really “big” fear. Maybe they are being bullied at school or someone is threatening them or making them feel uncomfortable…maybe they witnessed something scary with a friend or they hear news on TV that frightens them…maybe someone close to them dies or has cancer…
You know…the real scary things of a much bigger world…
Because I believe when we belittle or make light of their small fears, then when it truly matters…they may not come to us when there is something bigger in their world that frightens them. Instead they start stuffing it deeper and deeper because in their minds…if the “small” stuff that was a big deal to them didn’t matter then what about the even “bigger” stuff that frightens them too?
We, as parents, must foster a safe place. A place where they know they will be heard. Where they will not be made to feel stupid, dumb or silly.
Later this week I will be sharing some practical steps for helping our kids battle fear…practical steps and tools that we as parents can put into the hands of our children so they can win the war against the fear that would want to overshadow their hearts and life.
“Being Fearless does not mean never being afraid…it simply means being able to walk in courage despite the fear.”
Psalm 118:6 “The LORD is for me, so I will have no fear. What can mere people do to me?”